Some men do not respect women.
I do not know why, but I’m constantly surrounded by people like that. And I feel the need to tell you that you guys can stop being jerks now and be respectful.
A lady is not an object. She is not here for you to use her, in anyway – for sex, or something for you to hold so you do not feel lonely. You are not to use her beauty, like, as if she’s some kind of trophy you fought for.
Respect doesn’t only come in that form. It also comes from the way you talk to her. Even if her opinions are not yours, you will not belittle her or to label her as ‘weird’. This is respect – you accept although it doesn’t align with your principles or values.
A man, should lead, they are born to lead. But you are never to make a lady feel less of a being just because she’s a lady. When a lady says NO, it means NO. You shouldn’t use emotional blackmailing to get what you want. That is downright disgusting… and disgusting, especially for men who are older than me. Shame on you. Using emotions to get what you want.
Scenario : The crying kid in the mart, trying to get his mom to buy him candy.
You know what, let me tell you what makes a man.
He means what he says, and he takes responsibility of his words spoken.
He carries the groceries. He changes the lightbulbs for you.He makes you coffee. He puts your needs before his. He takes your NO like a man. He accepts your opinions, without making you small. He wants the best for you. He wants you to grow. He willingly takes out the trash. He buys you chocolate cake when you need it the most – without asking. He leads you. He makes you breakfast. He buys you stuffs, just because. He waits for you. He gives without expecting.
Note that I have not talked about money, status and knowledge a man should posses.
Because you need to get the basics right before the small stuffs.